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Friday, January 31, 2014

I Hurt My Son's Feelings...But the Story Doesn't End There

I hurt my son's feelings, but the story doesn't end there #parenting #raising boys by ASliceOfHomeschoolPie.com


I hurt my son's feelings and felt terrible about it, but the story doesn't end there.

As a mom, one of the last things I ever want to do is hurt my child. Sometimes I get lost in a moment of frustration and before putting any thought into what I'm about to say, the words just come out. It's during moments like these that I am more apt to hurt my son's feelings. Although this doesn't happen too often, when it does, it always makes me feel sick to my stomach.

Mom, have you gone through this, too?


I am so thankful for the grace of God. I know that my Lord loves me no matter what I do. I feel this is also true of my son. However, in the same way that I go to my Lord in repentance, so I feel I must go to my son when I wrong him.

I had to seek his forgiveness.

I went to the store that day and searched for the right card to give to him. I found one. It wasn't fancy, and it didn't include a lot of fluffy words, but it simply stated what I felt:

Someone thinks you're wonderful...Me!

Inside, I wrote an apology and shared what I felt were some of his wonderful qualities. I let him know how much I love him and how honored I was to have him as my son.

When I got home I handed him the card along with a small box of chocolates. I watched his expression as he read the card and saw a smile slowly take shape. By the time he had finished, it had grown into a full blown smile.

He looked at me and said, "Mom, this is just what I needed," followed by, "I think I may have overreacted."

I responded, "Son, I think we both did."

We gave each other a big hug and all was well again, both in his heart and mine.

Moms, sometimes we're going to say things that are going to hurt our children's feelings; things that we will regret. Just as I unintentionally hurt my son, so will you. Just remember this; our children have forgiving hearts, so when you wrong them, go to them with true repentance in your heart, not only are they likely to forgive you, but love you all the more for it.
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28 comments:

  1. Love the freedom to ask forgiveness from our children. This is not a sign of weakness, but of strength.

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  2. I think we have all done it but it's important for kids to know that we are not perfect either. Glad it turned out okay.

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    1. I agree, our children have to see us as real individuals who make mistakes and aren't afraid to admit when we're wrong. :-)

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  3. I have lost track of how many times I have had to ask my children to forgive me. I can only assure them that I love them. That I striving to be more like Christ but that I do stumble and I do fall.

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    1. What a beautiful thing you're teaching your children when you let them know that you are striving to be more like Christ. We can assure our children that when we fall, He will always be there to help us back up. :-)

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  4. Same here...as my kids say, "There's only one perfect person, and He isn't me!"

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  5. This does happen and I always remember that my dad was always willing to say he was sorry and I completely respect him for that. I think it gets hard when parents can't recognize that they aren't perfect. The ability to say I'm sorry can be so powerful for a child, and an adult child for that matter! :)

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    1. Yes, respecting our children enough to say, "I'm sorry" definitely helps us earn their respect too.

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  6. Oh, I have been there and done that! :( The card is a great idea!

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  7. I know how you feel mama. But I truly believe that if our kids see us saying sorry they will know it is ok not to be perfect and learn to say it themselves when it is needed. Your doing awesome mama:)

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  8. I love this. We all mess up, and we can let our kids know that we are human and sinful also. But it's great that we can come to them and ask forgiveness, and it sends a powerful message.

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  9. This is a nice story. We all make mistakes but can be forgiven.

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  10. It breaks my heart whenever I hurt my kids feelings. A heart felt apology can go a long way.

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    1. Yes, it can and it gives our children a perfect example of what they can do when they "mess up."

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  11. What an awesome idea to give him a card and chocolates. I know he felt really good after that.

    Michelle F.

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    1. One thing I've learned with my children, an easy way to put a smile to their face is to give them chocolate! :-)

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  12. What a wonderful way to ask forgiveness and make your son fell that you really mean it. I think I might use this one in the future.

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    1. This is why I wanted to share this story, because I know I'm not the only mom out there that sometimes "messes up." :-)

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  13. Wonderful post - so often parents are too proud to ask forgiveness from their child, and miss out on a great opportunity to reach their heart in the process.

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    1. "...miss out on a great opportunity to reach their heart..." So true!

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  14. I do hurt my sons' feelings, too -- mostly because I act out of impatience or anger. It's a big area I need to work on.

    Thanks for this beautiful post --- glad I found you via the BYB Challenge!

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    1. Dianna, I believe all parents tend to do this at one time or another.

      Thanks for stopping by! Hope to "see" you back here again. :-)

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