"As young children, I believe God gives us siblings in order to prepare us for the day we have our own family." This is how I began a conversation with my oldest son after a situation in which I heard him speaking harshly to his brother.
He stood there and listened.
"Son, someday if it's God's will, you're going to be a father. How you speak to your brother now, is preparing you for how you're going to speak to your son or daughter in the future. Did you hear how you just spoke to your brother?"
"Yes," he quietly answered.
"Is that how you'd like to speak to your own children?"
"No," he responded.
"I believe one of the reasons God gave you a brother was in order to prepare you for the wonderful father you're going to be. Being a dad is not always going to be an easy job, just like being a big brother isn't. This home is your training ground. If you practice speaking kindly to your brother, it will help you to grow up to be the kind of father who speaks kindly to his children."
And this was a preteen's brief lesson on the subject of fatherhood.
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"Son, someday if it's God's will, you're going to be a father. How you speak to your brother now, is preparing you for how you're going to speak to your son or daughter in the future"
ReplyDeleteThat's SO great. We all should reallt think about how we speak to people. Our sibelings, partners, parents, friends.
I loved this <3
Agreed!
DeleteLOVE this! It is so important for everyone to learn these lessons, thanks for sharing this!
ReplyDeleteYou're welcomed Marcie! I'll be sharing more "lessons" here at some point (as everyday offers an opportunity around here for a lesson), so I hope you'll come back.
DeleteGreat article!
ReplyDeleteThanks!
DeleteGreat article! I think children should learn more about how to be a good role model and learn that how they treat others now will lean them in the directions of how they will treat others when they are older.
ReplyDeleteSo true!
DeleteSounds like a great lesson he will always remember! Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI surely pray he will always remember it. :-)
DeleteThat is a great lesson. My sister was always so maternal to me and I think she helped me a better mom to my daughter.
ReplyDeleteMichelle F>
This could serve as a great lesson for all of us. We should speak to others in the manner that is appropriate. Often its not what we say but how we say it!
ReplyDeleteWonderful wisdom. I am going to try this same approach the next time my boys are short with each other. It seems to happen more and more.
ReplyDeleteI have never thought about it that way, but your words of wisdom are very true and rather easy for a pre-teen, tween/teen to understand.
ReplyDeleteGood perspective! I hadn't thought of that myself!
ReplyDeleteLovely. thank you for sharing
ReplyDeleteThis is great! I think I'll have this talk with my son! :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for the share -- great perspective :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this perspective. I have a two year old boy.
ReplyDeleteThis is so true! I had a very large age gap with my brother and ended up helping to raise him. I definitely realise now that I am a mother that I learned a lot of lessons then that are valuable now - now just practical things like diapers, but also lessons in patience and kindness.
ReplyDeleteThis is true of my husband and his youngest brother. I really believe his helping his mom out by taking care of his brother has helped him to be the wonderful father that he is.
DeleteI love this lesson about treating their siblings the way they would like to treat their future children. Thank you for sharing this! Stopping by from Boost Your Blog.
ReplyDeleteHi TaMara! Thanks for stopping by. Have fun with the challenge and I hope to have you back!
DeleteA valuable lesson to teach our kids. My husband took care of his younger brother and he is now great at taking care of our daughter.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful, beautiful thing to teach your son. I will absolutely bring this lesson to my son and my daughter. Thank you for reminding me to teach with the gentleness of Christ...that's what I aim for, but not always what happens.
ReplyDeleteThat's what I always aim for too, but like you said, sometimes it doesn't always happen. :-)
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